Only asking because i heard this same question in a movie the other day: do you ever feel any guilt whenever married men come into the club and you have to give them lap dances? like do you feel as if you're interfering in someones marriage?
I actually think I improve WAY more marriages than I damage. If a guy is in a monogamous marriage where his needs for intimacy aren’t getting met or he has a desire to interact and flirt with women outside his marriage, but he can’t do those things without either getting a divorce or cheating, going to the strip club for a safe, consensual, not-actually-sex experience that lets him blow off steam and stay strong in his relationship is one of the BEST options. I hear from a lot of couples that come in to my work that going to the strip club helps inspire their sex life, too, so I imagine this is true for some married male customers. I would not consider getting a lap dance cheating UNLESS the partner has specifically laid out that boundary. If a marriage is frail that a stripper who is simply doing her job at work can “destroy” it, it was never a strong or healthy marriage to begin with.
“One of the most durable paradoxes of white supremacy - the idea that those who are closest to an experience of oppression are its least credible witnesses.”—
Walter Johnson, Soul by soul: life inside the antebellum slave market (via drapetomaniakkk)
This is the type of violence—from microaggressions to epistemic violence to emotional/physical violence to enslavement/genocide—that gets justified by asserting that the oppressor is “objective” and “logical” and thereby “credible.” As if there is objectivity in choosing to oppress. As if the emotions of entitlement, indifference, greed or hatred aren’t involved.
"Ultimately what makes ‘Bob’s Burgers’ so special is its conviction that most people are good, most problems are minor, and other folks’ weirdness can be taken in stride. Gene’s mild gender play, for instance, is a source of comedy but never mocked, just as Tina’s burgeoning sexuality is funny, but never pathologized or minimized."
And they call Linda, ”the most lovable mom on TV.” Thanks, Salon!
Ron Donald — The odds that you are Ron Donald have tripled simply by clicking on this link. That’s an RDD. You have the self-will of a saltine cracker, and anything that promises you greater self-awareness and discipline is irresistible to you. Disappointment and humiliation will pour itself into your hands without your even having to reach for it.